Finding Time For One Another

One of the main complaints of any couple that needs more romance in their lives tends to be a question of how to find the time. Finding time for romance in modern life can truly be a challenge. There can be demands from family, asking you to spend time with them. Children require full time care. There are very few jobs out there that are going to be understanding about you needing to spend time with your spouse. In the end, the only people that can prioritize your relationship are you and your spouse.

Start by finding time just to spend together when there are no other demands on the two of you for your time. It can be in the evenings after the children are in bed, but before you go to bed. It can even be in the mornings before the children are awake for the day. When my husband was on a night shift at one point in time, I would wake up when he came home and we would watch the sunrise together. It was very romantic, if somewhat unconventional. It was time we set aside for one another.

Turn off your phones during time that you have set aside for one another. Sometimes you can be in the middle of a quiet moment only to have it interrupted by a phone call out of nowhere. Even if you think it’s a time that no one is likely to be calling, turn the phones off to be safe. My husband and I have been interrupted as early as 5:00 am, and as late as midnight, so turn those phones off and use the time you have set aside for your spouse and your spouse alone. You still may be interrupted on occasion, but most of the time, you will have that time to enjoy one another, and talk and listen to each other. If you are interrupted, you can simply take it in stride, especially if your time together is a regular thing. If the interruptions are happening regularly, something may have to give somewhere. You may have to choose a different time, or address the cause of the interruptions, depending on the situation.  

It's also important to find time occasionally to get out of the house together.  That can be a little bit more challenging, especially if you have children, but can still be done. On those occasions, you may have to think about hiring a babysitter, or even relying on friends or family to watch your children. The best thing you can do is to find someone you trust implicitly with your children, and work with them to find time to be able to go out on occasion. If you haven’t been away from your children very often, it may take them time to get used to the idea, but they will, and they’ll be learning more independence while you are enjoying yours.

Finding time can truly be one of the biggest challenges of bringing romance into your relationship. It’s also worth it, because it helps you to relieve stress, and to do what you need to do to make your relationship stronger.