The Little Things That Matter

It has become cliché to say that it’s the little things that matter, but the bottom line is that it really is true. However, sometimes the little things are not necessarily what we think they are at first. When people think of little things, they often think of things like little gifts and doing favors for one another. That’s not to say that those things aren’t romantic, because they are, but sometimes there are other little things that matter more.  These are the little things that come through in our words and actions. They are the things that we don’t think about, but that truly make a difference in our relationships and how others feel about us.

One of the little things that matters most is saying thank you often. Say thank you for even the most mundane of things and say thank you to your partner for doing their part. Thank your spouse for taking out the trash. Thank your husband for doing the laundry. Thank your wife for taking care of the children. It shows that you do not take them for granted and that you appreciate their contributions. It’s surprising how far this goes in keeping one another happy. Knowing you are appreciated helps you to feel more loved and therefore, puts you more in the mood for romance.

Another little thing that really matters is your attitude toward one another. Sometimes, even though you ultimately respect your partner, a disrespectful tone can creep into your voice. It may be because you’re concentrating on something else. It might be because you don’t want to be bothered right now. Either way, it’s not good for your relationship. Get in the habit of being kind to your significant other no matter what. When they ask for your attention and you’re busy, take at least a moment to tell them that you can be with them shortly. Just a few kind words can make the difference between a good interaction and a bad one.

Sincerely complimenting your partner can also go a long way toward romance. Remember that compliments do need to go beyond simply telling your wife that she looks pretty or your husband how good he looks. Compliment your spouse’s ideas and opinions. Compliment when your husband or wife cooks a fantastic meal. All of this goes right along with saying thank you for the mundane. It makes a difference.

A big part of romance is about loving and appreciating one another. These small things show that love. Never be afraid of being too sappy because that’s what romance is really all about.